How do I Change a Guy from Player to Boyfriend?

I met this guy over a month now and he lives like an hour away. I really like this guy. When we were texting, He told me he is a player. First why would a guy say that? Anyhow so I go over to his house and we watch a movie and we start making out. Now that鈥檚 all we did that night. I haven鈥檛 seen him for almost two weeks but that鈥檚 because we both were busy over the holidays. But he still flirts with me in his texts and now he wants to see me on Friday. We have this joke that I say don鈥檛 dream of me, and I said that last night and he said this morning what if I did dream about you would you make it come true? ; ) and I just flirt back but by the time we ended he told me that the crazy dream was like a 8 or 9. And He wants it to come true. Also he said I have nice boobs. Like I don鈥檛 know what is going on in this guys head. but I don鈥檛 know what I should do. Should I just drop the guy or should I have fun with it. Or should I play the game back with him? Help!!!!How do I Change a Guy from Player to Boyfriend?
You can't change anyone. Except them the way they are or move on.How do I Change a Guy from Player to Boyfriend?
You cannot change someone. The person has to to want to change. You could encourage but that does not always work. You could go with the flow but be weary of your heart getting broken, especially if you develop feelings for this guy. He did say up front that he was a player - most players are there to ';play'; only - that right there should be a warning sign. Be friends first, then take it from there.
a player will always be a player, he won't change for you no matter what you do. Another chic likes him maybe for similar reasons that you like him. When a player can have multiple affection why would he ever want to settle down with only one? He has choices, either with just you alone or with couple other ladies.





If he's unattractive, you wouldn't have to worry, but he sounds pretty attractive since you're not the only one who likes him.
accept him for who he is and quit trying to change people.
Don't do things with him that you don't want to do (with him)
You cant nor should you want to change anyone...accept or move on....maybe recognize the fact that you seem to be a bit of a player yourself
Why would a guy say something like that? Well, sweetie, that's ';guy speak'; for ';be warned, I will mess around on you every chance I get and I offer no excuses';. He probably says that to all the girls. That along with the other cornball lines he's feeding you. If that's the kind of guy you want to waste your time with there's nothing anyone here can say that you'll listen to. Good Luck. You're gonna need it.
stupid, chicks really amaze me.... just do whatever YOU want... dont let his actions control yours....
You can't change people
You can't change him. He is the only one who can change himself and he will only do that when he wants to change and is ready to do so. Until then, either accept it and move on, or accept the pain involved with staying with a player...Good Luck
That doesnt mean hes a player, he said that to make u think he is in demand from other women, most of the time he isnt even doing anything with anyone else! Its a way of making himself more appealing to u, look it worked didnt it? Men play mind gamed too. I say see where it goes, but dont get 2 attached. Good Luck! -Nay
By telling you he is a Player, he is letting you know that he does not want one girlfriend, he just wants a bunch of girls to fool around with and eventually have sex with, with no commitments at all.





If you want a guy that sleeps around with who knows how many girls, and could pick up diseases, then this is the guy for you. If you want a steady, loyal, clean, trustworthy boyfriend, then you need to cut off all communication with this guy. He will not change.
Ever heard the saying you cant turn a h0e into a housewife.....well the same rules apply to guys!! You have to either accept someone for who they are or move on. Flirting is one thing, but how sure are you that he isnt doing the same thing to other girls?!? You are better off just finding a nice local guy that isn't in o playing games and all, believe me there are some really awesome men out there!! Good Luck!
First you can't change a guy period. If he wants to change he will, but if he's on the young side he's going to want to ';play the field'; and stay a player for a while.





I say if you're young there's no harm in just having fun with it as long as you know that's what you're doing. You have to be okay with the fact that this may never be more than just fun and that he may having the same kind of fun with other girls (so protect yourself). If you can honestly be okay with that then do it, if not let him go and look for someone who wants something more like what you want.
Find a different guy.
YOu dont... girls think they can change guys... people arnt putty, its not that easy. It takes life experiences to change someone.
you cant change a player to a boyfriend. i went out with a player and i tried to change him, but it didnt work. one of his friends was talking to me and said it looked like he was cheating on me with some girl he used to date. it just didnt work out.
um, you are probably his thrid or fourth girlfriend.. players have multiple girls... one for where ever they are... like school, work, home, beach,,, etc...





Have fun with him, but just know that he won't change anytime soon... He is more likely to change in his 30's not his 20's.
Forget about him, you can't change him and you shouldn't have to. You need a guy that will appreciate you and only you.
lol, u got urself into it, how do you know this guy in the first place?
he is just looking for a sex buddy , dump him !
You have to make it seem like you are a player too. If you're not going with this guy, tell him you do have other options and you don't want to get into something so fast.


Also, DON'T give him what he wants. If he admit's he is a player, then he might just use you to get something.


If you really like him, you have to prove to him that you're worth it to make him not be a player.


Just play your cards right. Don't always be avalible when he wants you to be. If he texts and asks you whats up, tell him ';Nothing much, just texting some of my guy friends.'; or soemthing.
Here's what you do - you understand that he wants one thing - a physical relationship. He gave you every indication from the start. He said he was a player - he meant it. He doesn't want to get serious with anyone. He wants to have fun.





I would say you're already too invested in the relationship to ';have fun'; with it. You have some pretty clear feelings about him and wanting him to be a boyfriend. I see nothing but heartache for you if you continue thinking he'll someday change.





We women have a tendency to want to ';fix'; things to fit what we think we want. We wait for things to change when in fact, they are what they are. He wants to see you because he's getting what he wants from the relationship - fun without strings attached. If you're willing to accept that, then keep him. If not, cut the cord now. In time, you'll see he was honest with you and you were the one who put more emphasis on what you wanted it to be. It's tough, but it's better than ending up bitter and thinking him less than he is. I don't see that he's lied to you or misrepresented, but you're certainly going to be disappointed (and probably angry) when you realize later on that he isn't boyfriend material.
The only answer to this is never try to change anyone they will never be the person you were attracted to in the first place. He may be in a place in his life where thats just what he wants to do play. If you're ok play back.
I married to a guy who was a major player. first we just hung out but then I realized I have feelings for him so I told him thaty we need to be serious or I don't want to see him anymore. He said OK and we became BF and GF but in his mind we weren't until he was ready himself. and it was mostly because he was in his thirties and done with the ';playing';. you can't change anyone. so if this guy is a young one, I would say there is even less hope that he would convert himself to a caring and committed guy. I say just have fun and do not push anything. it will happen if it will happen. just make sure you won't stick around when you start having feelings for him and he is not in your level because then you would get hurt and if there was a chance with you two one day it would be ruied by all the emotional scars from the past. this is from experience. good luck
Honey, if he hasn't asked you out, I'd be very suspicious of that guy. You are approaching it in the wrong way. He is really a stranger and you took a dangerous chance by going to his house. But anyway, I say drop him. He's not made a move to take you anywhere and he just wants to meet you? Don't!
He told you he was a player, either to impress you or make sure you know before hand. He would changed if he loved you, but you have only known him for a month so... You could either drop him or stay with him to see how it turns out.
From the male perspective -


If I'm telling you up front that ';I'm a player'; that means don't expect anything but a good time. Period.





You've been warned.





Sadly I have friends of the female type that break their hearts over guys because they - Want To Change Them -





Now stop for a second and think that through. What attracted you to this guy? If you changed it, would that not effect your attraction factor? Or is it that you only want to change ';certain things'; about the guy.





I'm sorry dear - it don't work that way. And if you open the door to a player, don't expect to make a 9 to 5 come home to honey out of him - he will be playing the field later. Its in the nature.
cant change the player, can only change the game
Why don't you find a ';boyfriend'; type and let him stay the same?
You can't make chicken salad out of chic S**t , I dont care what type of dressing you use it won't taste the same....